6 Tips for Well-Being
6 Tips for Well-Being

Being a mom can sometimes feel lonely. How can that be when surrounded by hustle, bustle, kids, and activity.

I venture to guess that in the absence of other mental illnesses, what we are lonely for is a connection with ourselves. When we’re raising children, we often lose touch with the best version of who we really are.

I’m here to say it’s not selfish to connect with you. Here’s my recipe for well-being that I try my best to practice.

1. Rest and sleep. There’s no heroism in sleep-deprivation. I literally used to love nap time when my kids were really little because I could take a power nap too. That’s not as necessary now, because my nighttime sleep isn’t interrupted, but I can’t overestimate the power of rest and sleep for your self-care.

2. Eat well. Choose foods that fuel your mom-self and give you energy. For me this means I limit sugar, alcohol, and simple carbohydrates from chips, crackers, cakes, cookies, and ice cream. I drink a lot of fresh water, eat a lot of colorful vegetables, lean protein, and healthy fats. My energy levels are great and I feel good most of the time. I attribute that physical feeling of well-being to what I eat and to my sleep.

3. Choose thoughts that serve you. Your environment will prove true whatever you think, so deliberately focus on what you want to show up in your life. If you think you’re kids are cranky, or that you’re crazy busy guess what? Your kids act cranky and you feel crazy busy. (Below is my favorite YouTube video on this brainpower center called the Reticular Activating System.)

4. In quiet sit, every morning, for at least 10 to 15 minutes. No phone. No TV. Just you and quiet. Try to avoid the mental to-do list. Just sit and listen and be.

5. Play with people who are fun and have fun with your kids. They aren’t always going to want you around, so if you have a craving to play, now’s the time. Picnics, nature walks, banging on pots and pans. Embrace this chance to do what other adults don’t always take the time to do – play and have fun. I used to tell myself having kids felt was like I was on vacation. And we had a lot of fun for sure.

6. Enjoy inputs that uplift – music, books, TV, movies. Uplifting generates good thoughts which drive positive emotions and actions. This is why the Hallmark Channel is so popular.

When we show up for ourselves and be the best we can be, we’re easier to be around. We don’t mind solitude, and we don’t look for people and activities outside of us to make us feel better. And, if you do feel lonely, and if you feel darkness overcomes you more often than not, please reach out to someone. You’re not alone.

Cookbook author, editor, and Culinary Dietitian Maggie Green, RDN, LD coaches first-time cookbook

Anthony Bourdain
Anthony Bourdain

It comes as no surprise  – the death of Anthony Bourdain has touched so many. Bourdain’s post-chef career as a food writer, author, and travel show host was launched by his writing, Don’t Eat Before Reading This, published in The New Yorker in April 1999.

Shortly after this no-name chef told his story about what happens behind closed doors in restaurants, he was offered a contract for his first book Kitchen Confidential. The rest, as they say, was history.

What captivated me was his willingness to go where most wouldn’t dare. His honest, descriptive, and shocking appraisals of life in a restaurant kitchen weren’t liked by all, but, by and large, his I-don’t-give-a-flying-you-know-what attitude and the sheer act of being himself created fans who loved and admired him for writing like he talked and being who he was.

Bourdain, interviewed on the occasion of his 60th birthday for First We Feast quipped, “I joke about not giving a f*** being a very good business model for me,” he said, “but it’s true. The absolute certainty that nobody was going to buy or read or care about Kitchen Confidential was what allowed me to write it. I didn’t have to think about what people expected. I didn’t care. And as a result, I was able to write this book quickly and without tormenting myself. And that seemed to work out and I learned from that experience and I tried very hard. Whether I’m meeting with a group of television executives or telling a story, I don’t think about ‘the fans’; I don’t think about what audiences expect, and I’m not afraid of what will they think of me, or what if they don’t like it and I’m not on television anymore.” And then the kicker, the thing that got the audience pumping, “You know, I’ll go back to brunch….. I don’t care.”

Here’s what I think is the saddest part of the whole turn of events this past week with Bourdain, and even in the same light, Kate Spade.  His fan’s love and admiration for him, and his bad-boy ways, wasn’t enough to overcome the darkness and despair, and maintain the energy required to continue to live life as he knew it.  So, he made the decision to leave it all, including a sweet 11-year old daughter.

My hope and belief is that he is now at peace connected to Love in a way that none of us have ever experienced. I for one would love to know what he really thinks about this “place”. For if there’s one mortal person I know I could count on for the full report it’s Anthony Bourdain.

Cookbook author, editor, and Culinary Dietitian Maggie Green, RDN, LD coaches first-time cookbook authors during the pre-publication phase of writing a cookbook. 

Would you like to write a cookbook, but feel alone in the pre-publication phase of writing?

Are you stuck thinking about your cookbook idea or has you project fizzled?

Do you feel

Going LIVE!
Going LIVE!

If there is one change I made to my business (and personal life) during the past year that made a huge difference for me and my clients (and family) it would be “going live”.

When you’re LIVE people can see you on camera. There is more connection, engagement, communication.

So, in the past 12 months, I’ve had

  • LIVE Mastermind Groups
  • LIVE 1:1 Coaching Calls
  • LIVE WeChat calls with my son in Austria
  • LIVE group video calls with my siblings
  • LIVE Cookbook Writing Q & A calls for members of my email list

LIVE is risky. Not only can people hear us, but they can see us. We put ourselves and our faces out there.

LIVE is so good. Plus it’s fun and connects me with clients and family like never before.

As a result of LIVE broadcasts, masterminds, and coaching I tripled my coaching and mastermind client load over the past 12 months.

And, LIVE gets easier and easier the more I do.

Next, I plan to offer LIVE webinars, Q & A Calls, and Facebook or YouTube LIVE to promote my work to a larger audience.

How much LIVE work are you doing in your business?

If you said not much, I challenge you to take the time to LIVE.

Cookbook author, editor, and Culinary Dietitian Maggie Green, RDN, LD coaches first-time cookbook authors during the pre-publication phase of writing a cookbook. 

Would you like to write a cookbook, but feel alone in the pre-publication phase of writing?

Are you stuck thinking about your cookbook idea or has you project fizzled?

Do you feel overwhelmed with publishing options and the recipes, photography, and publishing process?

I’ve been there. I know first-hand that there’s not a lot of support for first-time cookbook authors who don’t have an agent or a publisher yet.  That’s why I started my work as a cookbook writing coach.

Here are a few resources for you as you venture into the world of cookbook writing: 

An 11-point checklist that helps you answer the question, “Am I Ready to Write a Cookbook?”

Cookbook Writing Workbook

What Is A Cookbook Coach? 

10 Reasons to Hire A Cookbook Coach

If you want to write a cookbook: You have to write
If you want to write a cookbook: You have to write

This may be a rant of sorts, but I have something on my mind.

We all have dreams.

Dreams to own our own home. Raise a family. Live a life of travel and excitement.  Some dreams may be more specific such as open a restaurant, buy season tickets to the New Orleans Pelicans, or live on a wooden houseboat in Sausalito, CA. You get the picture. Your dreams are your dreams. Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise.

But, if you have a dream of writing a cookbook, or a blog, or a newsletter for your audience, you have to get practical at some point.

Practical, not in the sense, that “you-can’t-write-a-cookbook-because-you’re-not-a-celebrity” practical (I don’t buy into that one. You’re looking at a four-time cookbook author who is not a TV star), or, “no-one-is-reading-your-blog-anyway” practical,  but practical in the sense that “you-have-to-write” practical.  “The-words-have-to-get-on-the-page” practical.  or “Talk-your-book-and-have-it-transcribed” practical.

Here’s what I mean.

This blog post didn’t write itself. My cookbooks didn’t write themselves. And, my weekly newsletter isn’t produced by a content creator other than me.

I’m sitting here at my computer, in my office, writing these words.

My fingers are typing on a black keyboard. There’s a load of laundry in the dryer, the dog is barking at people lined up at my neighbor’s house for an estate sale, and my college-aged daughter just texted me about moving out of her dorm. This is called LIFE – all the things and people and stuff we do in between the time when we write our cookbooks and our blog posts and newsletters.

Truth be told, I created the space and energy to be sitting here. I’m not too busy, too tired, too overwhelmed, or too exhausted, to sit here with my fingers on my keyboard and write. For this is what writers do. We write whether we “feel” like it or not. We show up for ourselves. We create content. We write books. We get them published. We send newsletters. And, deep down we know that if we don’t write, none of the books, blogs, or newsletters happen.

Here’s the upshot: dream all you want. I love dreams. I love living dreams. I adore watching my clients speak their dreams and make them come true. But, like I tell them: if you dream of a cookbook, or a regularly updated blog, or a newsletter for your audience –  you have to sit down and write.

No matter how busy you think you are, no matter how much time you don’t think you have, no matter how overwhelmed you feel, no matter the design of your blog, or your logo, or your Instagram feed. If you want to produce a piece written content, you have to put your fingers on your proverbial black keyboard, or your pen to the notebook, and WRITE.

Writing takes time.

Writing takes up space in your day, or your evening, or your morning, or your night.

Writing means we’re not doing other …

You're On The Team!

My youngest son’s basketball team qualified for the Kentucky High School Sweet Sixteen (state basketball tournament.)

Out of over 200 teams, 16 are left.

He gets to ride the bus with the team. Stay in a hotel with the team. Eat with the team. Warm up with the team. Play with the team.. He’s so excited for this opportunity. It’s really the icing on the cake.

Back in January, he hit a wall. Practices were becoming a grind. He asked me if it was all worth it.

I said yes, but you’re either in or you’re out. And if you’ve chosen to play the sport, and they’ve chosen you to be on the team, you owe it to them to be all in.

Do you ever feel like that as a mom, first-time cookbook author, business owner? Hit the wall? Ask if it’s all worth it?

Here’s my advice:

  • Go all in.
  • Do it all because you’ve chosen to be a mom and to own your own business.
  • Drop the hard, struggle, overwhelm.
  • Frame your life differently.
  • Enjoy the freedom and flexibility running your own business brings.
  • Plan ahead and spend Thursday morning at a pep-rally or help with a spelling test at school.
  • Lead with your life.
  • Practice. Hit the wall. Bounce back. Enjoy your reward.
  • You’re on the team and the team needs you.

Cookbook author and culinary dietitian Maggie Green coaches aspiring cookbook authors in the process of writing cookbooks, cookbook proposals, and building their author platform. Download her checklist “Am I Ready to Write A Cookbook?”

Worry Has No Upside
Worry Has No Upside

My oldest son left last Friday to study abroad in Austria for 5 months.

He was so sweet telling me goodbye at the airport and as his mom, I feel a whole range of emotions, from pride to worry.

I hugged him and told him if there’s anything at all he needed or that I could do for him just give me the word. As a mom, you all know this. We’d do anything for our kids.

I’ve never had a child so far away from home. I must admit – it feels really strange. Suddenly,  it feels like part of my body is walking around on the continent of Europe. He’s been in college for over 2 years, so it’s not the separation that is new. It’s the distance that makes this experience feel unique.

Despite the distance, I have decided not to worry about the million things I could worry about.

There is no upside to worry. I’d rather sleep, eat well, run my business, have fun, and trust that all is well than worry.

Worry takes up space in my brain. I could use this space for inspiration, ideas, and creativity instead.

Worry is a feeling that comes from my thoughts.

I can control my thoughts and make deliberate choices about what I’ll think about.

Here are the thoughts I choose to think about his being away for 5 months:

  • All is well
  • He is ready for this
  • This is an amazing opportunity for him to study the German language and learn
  • I appreciate all the ways his university has set up this program for their students to take advantage of
  • He has succeeded in applying and getting to Austria
  • He has always wanted to do this and now’s his time
  • He paid attention to other students, learned from them, and here he fulfilling a dream
  • He coordinated the efforts that studying abroad requires from applications to student visas and immunizations to airline reservations
  • I can handle this
  • He can handle this
  • I focus on what I can control while he is there
  • I am learning as a mom grow to from situations such as this

Those thoughts make me feel good, peaceful, and calm.

And, that’s a much better place than worry.

And it’s all possible with a change in the way I think.

If you tend to worry, ask yourself what are thoughts that make you worry.

Make a list of alternative (believable) thoughts instead and then practice them.

It’s time to kiss worry goodbye.

Cookbook author and culinary dietitian Maggie Green coaches aspiring cookbook authors in the process of writing cookbooks, cookbook proposals, and building their author platform. Download her checklist “Am I Ready to Write A Cookbook?”